Changing the way you treat yourself all around shakes things up, rattles some relationships and rolls you into the flow of life more than you might expect…
Preparing yourself mentally, for a bit of a shake up in your life will help you open your eyes to new and interesting experiences. I say all of the following, with total LOVE.
Let’s get this elephant in the room onto the table in the center of the room and talk about it for a little bit. How many of you have started to change the way you eat or change your exercise routine to try and improve the way you feel only to have someone you love send uneasy vibes and sometimes even hurtful words and actions your way??
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt and hey… guess what, I’m still here AND I’m happy!
I am the middle child, right in the center of my two brothers, so let’s just say I had to grow up with some sort of armor to make it through the day sometimes. I say all of this with love. If it weren’t for my experiences in life I wouldn’t be doing what I am going today…. I love my family, even if they did make me a little crazy.
As a dancer and the artist of the family, it was a little bit of a struggle to be heard, seen and to not be made fun of, put down or made to feel like what I was experiencing in life was just fairy dust and unicorns, I happen to love unicorns by the way… Why do I say all of this- because you can be made to feel that same way when you want to change your lifestyle for the better.
There IS going to be some resistance. Whether that be from your inner guide, your friends or your family, I guarantee you will experience some resistance, but hey welcome it with amusement! HAHAHA, hello resistance, there you are!
Leaning to recognize it is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself to create an immediate shift in energy.
Most of us start this drastic change not thinking it will rattle everything in our lives. We start out thinking, awesome; everything is about to change for the better… hold, up, not without a little resistance. It normally shakes and rattles things in a good way, but 95% of the time you have to deal with the bullshit before the good shit comes out on the other end, trust me, I’ve been there. I still feel resistance but I’ve learned how to recognize it, validate it and let that shit go. It’s not good for you once you realize what that looks like.
So, who would have thought that just simply changing the way you feed yourself could ramp up all kinds of comments and opinions from the peanut gallery?! Ohhhh trust me, I’ve had some people really tell me that I don’t have celiac and that’s a bunch of crap. I was diagnosed back when gluten free was not a fad, in fact, when I would say I need gluten free people would look at me like I had 10 heads… so yeah, needless to say this was a trying time for me and I can relate. My own boyfriend at the time looked at me and said “ Are you going to be like this forever???” It was like I was in some nightmare that just kept getting worse. You talk about rattling a relationship, we aren’t together anymore and we weren’t together for very much longer after my diagnosis. Not that he was a bad person, I am still friends with him but it was just the tip of my iceberg on the way back to health, so I am very thankful we parted ways.
Trying to change your life from point A to point B is amazing, but not without the really sucky, dark days. Everyone has their own opinions about what everyone else should eat, how they should act, etc…. blah, blah, blah. I am here to tell you, do YOUR own thing. YOU know what is best for your body and what will make you happy. NO ONE ELSE can make you happy or make you healthy. It’s YOUR process, embrace that. It’s up to you, so when you are faced with tough opinions, comments, concerns, trash talk- just simply acknowledge it, maybe take it as someone trying to show you love… then let that shit go. If you hold onto that, it will only hurt YOU in the end and that’s not really the point here is it?? Be kind to yourself, you are enough, you can do this. It just may shake, rattle and roll your life in a few different directions but hey, who doesn’t like a good tap dance every once and a while??
What if you had someone who really understood what you were going through? What would that look like to you? Someone to bounce off ideas, thoughts, insights, celebrations? Someone to make it a little easier??
If I had someone back in the day, I would have really enjoyed more of the process of growth just as I have done in the past 2 years. But what I learned, I wouldn’t trade for the world.
Changing eating habits, exercise habits, thought patterns, throwing out old beliefs that are holding you back can really shake up every part of your life, this is why I find that a large number of people who go on “diets” fail. When you go on a diet, the intention is that its just for a short period of time and then you go back to your old ways…. Lets think about this for a second, what’s the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome… yep that sounds like a diet to me. This happens because it’s not them, its not their lifestyle they can’t make it work for them. Makes perfect sense. Everything starts to shift and you aren’t sure how to handle it.
Moral of the story is- changing your life is a pretty freaking amazing thing, I love that shit. Self growth is one of the best journeys that you can take to discover who you really are and what makes you tick. BUT be prepared for a little push back from the peanut gallery. A great support system plus positive thinking and awareness is what is going to bring the best success and make you the best version of yourself.
If I didn’t experience what I experienced growing up, with a diagnosis, trying to heal myself alone, I wouldn’t be able to help you, guide you, inspire you and laugh with you through it all. SO if you are struggling and wanting to give up, just keep swimming Dory, you got this…. Reach out to me and let’s talk about it.
